Marriages. Are They Really Made in Heaven?
Marriages. Are They Really Made in Heaven? Marriage is a form of relationship between people who share rights and obligations to each other after promising to be companions for a lifetime. It is the physical, mental and spiritual unison of two souls. We have a need to reach out to other people and form a close bond with them. There are different types of marriage, but the general types are civil marriage and religious marriage. People choose the kind of marriage which is suitable for them.
As for me I prefer to live with the person together first in the civil arriage and if it works out to marry him for real. The main advantage of the civil marriage is the possibility to get to know your mate closer, to see his failings and to learn to deal or live with them. I would also like to mention the same-sex marriage which is legal in many countries, but is still prohibited in the majority of remaining countries. I think that gay marriage should be legalized without doubt. One of our civil liberties is the pursuit of happiness.
So if two people of the same sex feel affection for one another and want to start a family they have a right to get married. I believe that those who are against the same-sex marriages are not used to thinking outside the box. They see trees, but they do not see the wood. Maybe if the government admitted that gay marriages are guite normal these people would eventually understand it too. I think they need to be reminded that they are not the only people on the planet and we are all different. I think we should respect each other beliefs and desires as long as they do not harm anyone.
Unfortunately marriages are often unsuccessful and the divorce rate is getting higher. There are many reasons for that. For instance sometimes people rush into marriage too soon, especially young and unexperienced ones. One more important detail of successful marriage is sharing everything with your partner. I believe you are not in a true relationship if you don ‘t do it. Your mate should be the closest person in the world to you. Another reason is the inability to sacrifice something for the loved ones and the lack of trust. Marriage is all about trust and compromises.
Sometimes people don ‘t manage to develop these very important things. Well, the trust problem is understandable because we have become a slack-willed race, which is contemptuous of such traditional values as loyalty and self-sacrifice. But as difficult as it is I consider it important to develop trust. I couldn ‘t agree more with Frank Crane who once said: “”You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough. ” I also believe that it is impermissible to have your ego in the first place if you are married.
When you’re in the relationship it’s vital to remember that now here are two of you and you are supposed to respect each other opinions and desires. If you love yourself more than you love your mate there is no way you two will be happy together. Everyday routine also very often ruins the marriage. I would be lying if I said I knew exactly how to avoid it. But I think people should remember what they mean to each other and why they got married. And they shouldn ‘t forget to tell each other about it. Feelings are like plants. They need to be watered regularly and they need the light of the sun.
If nobody looks after the plant it will die ventually. The same happens with people. If your soulmate doesn ‘t tell about her or you start to doubt it or simply forget about it. That’s how feelings die. To sum up, I think that marriage is overrated. Many people set all their hopes in it. I don ‘t consider marriage to be so important. As for me it’s Just a way of celebrating your happiness with your mate, relatives and friends and nothing more. I even understand those who get married secretly. In such a way it ‘s more intimate. Anyw???ay, everything depends on the people’s idea of relationships and marriage.